My daughter is 18 now, OMG~ where has the time gone? I want
her to have so much more than what I had. She is so smart with her 4.0 and she got
accepted into a great college. She will have most of her stuff paid for that is
a good thing. Mama does not have that kind of money. I think the way she seen
me struggle through-out the years to raise her and her brother she sees the difference. I tell her
all the time; get that education then marriage and children if she wants that.
I told her to stay clear of the young men at this time focus on that education
most of all. They are nothing but trouble just another ‘notch’ in their belt. That is
the truth. I told her not to have children at a young age. What it will get
you, a baby daddy that will leave your ass after 2 or 3 kids. It will be over
because you are too demanding or the kids are too much to deal with or just can’t
get along. I also told her and it will be hard to find someone else with young
kids at tow. They will use you as a booty call nothing more. Most will not put
up with another man’s children anyways. You need to give that long deep thought
girlfriend. There are men out there that will do that don't get me wrong, one in a million, slim to none.
You gotta have some good luck to find a man like that. I told her you need a
man with a brain, good education and good credit report. Man that will work and
provide for you. I have always been the bread winner and she has seen that. I
think she gets the picture. I told her women should not have kids until their
30’s that is the God’s honest truth. Live a little and then settle down. I am
glad that she seen me struggle raising her and her brother. They have never had
things handed to them. Hell, I was doing good to get what they needed in life.
I have always done without, I am not complaining that is a mother’s job. I know she is
very smart and I want her to play her cards right. She has told me that she
does not what any children. I told her you will change your mind in the long
run. I also told her to be honest having children in this monster of a world we
live in now that would not be a bad idea not to have any. The world has gone to
hell in a hand basket, why put a little one in such of a heartache kind of
world I must say. But that is up to her. She has to make that decision, no one
else. What she needs to do, get that college degree and live free spirited as
long as she can. I love her so much and I know she will do well because she has
her head on her shoulder. With the right guidance and support she will do just
fine. I love my girl! On the note, when it comes to having kids at a young age. You have massive bills and NO life until they are 18. If you don't have a college degree you are pretty much screwed and you are living on assistance as well. One thing about it, if you are going to college full time and working full time it's a total nightmare however if you are driven you can succeed and make your dreams come true. If you are lazy not driven your life will be complicated for a very long time. My advice, graduate from high school, then college, then children. Make your life simple NOT complicated. Live your life as long as you can then add the BIG responsibilities when you are stable and under control with life.
